What happens when girls flee conflict zones

World Vision Commuicator, Patricia Mouamar, reports on the dangers facing many refugee girls fleeing conflict zones, and reflects on her own experiences growing up in 1980s Lebanon. She meets some of the Syrian refugee girls, whose lives were being stunted by early marriage and child labour.

By Patricia Mouamar, Communications Officer with World Vision in Lebanon

Last summer I was sitting on a patio in Ottawa's Byward Market and suddenly, out of nowhere, the sound of Canada's Snowbird jets rocketed across the clear, blue sky. My Canadian friend looked up excitedly, explaining they were rehearsing for the annual Canada Day festivities.

For me, it brought back a chilling childhood memory - the screech of fighter jets across the skies of Lebanon, followed by the deathly sound of bombs dropping on our houses. As a little girl growing up in the 1980s during the final years of Lebanon's 15-year civil war, my family often had to take shelter underground from these attacks. I can remember the sting of my fear, how I could almost smell it in my mother and father and siblings.

Over the past few years working with World Vision in Lebanon, I've met many Syrian refugee children who have been traumatized by the violence of war, and the resulting hardships. There is one thing they all have in common: their look. But it is not just a look of fear; nor is it a look of need. It is a look of despair, especially in the girls. I talk to these girls and hear their stories of why they were forced to flee the conflict in Syria. None of them can tell me what their future will look like. But for many, I know in my heart that their future is bleak.

Married too soon

I think of my visit to a girl who had been married at 13 years old. She was sitting with her 19-year-old husband, holding their three-day-old baby. Early marriage is not traditional in Syria, she said, but a 'very negative coping mechanism.' Sadly, her story is typical of too many Syrian girls, whose parents feel they have no choice but to marry off their daughters so there are fewer mouths to feed.

I worry for these teenagers who are having babies too soon and have so little access to quality healthcare. Often on their own, they could face long, complicated labours and births that might result in long-term disability, incontinence, or even death. And their babies also face health risks; prematurity and stillbirths are more common in younger mothers.

Desperate times, desperate measures

I've also met parents who send their children to work, to help pay for basic needs like food and shelter. I think of their girls who must drop out of school to go and work in the fields and forget about their education. Some have no protection from the rains or harsh sun and others must forage alongside cattle to gather rotten crops in the farmers' fields. No child should ever be forced to work in dirty, dangerous, or degrading conditions that jeopardize their mental and physical health or their education.

What really disturbs me is that when girls start working and earning money at an early age, it's very difficult to leave that work and go back to school later on. They feel grown up, they are earning their keep - and their education no longer matters. That's why, almost five years into the crisis and with no end to the conflict in sight, education must become a priority. There are currently more Syrian school-aged children in Lebanon than Lebanese, and too many have been out of school for a few years now. What sort of generation is this creating?

Help creates hope

Thankfully, my work with World Vision allows me to bring some hope to these children and their families. Through food vouchers, access to clean water, psychosocial support, and early childhood educational projects we do our best to help meet their basic needs. You can help children whose lives are caught up in turbulent, unpredictable environments by donating to World Vision’s Syria Crisis Appeal to provide help to this lost generation and create hope for the future.

This blog was originally published in Huffington Post Canada, Oct. 11, 2015.

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