Amira came home from school one day to learn a terrible secret – her mother and grandmother had accepted a wedding request to a boy she didn’t know and had never met. “My mother told me that she was to marry me off. I couldn’t believe my ears. I burst into loud cry and my eyes were filled with tears. I begged her kneeling down to cancel the marriage, but she said no and insisted me to go straight to the elders, bow down and kiss the elders’ knees,” she recalls.
To bow and kiss the elders’ knee culturally is a girl’s to consent to a proposal.
“I refused. My mother hit me angrily with a stick. When the hitting got harsher and harsher, I went and kissed. The elders cheerfully blessed me and went home fixing the day of marriage.”
After the elders left the house, 10-year-old Amira’s grandmother told her that she should quit school from that day onwards. “My heart saddened so much. I wept all night.”
“I hopelessly wrote a letter to my teacher who is working on early marriage. In my letter I asked her to go and inform the police to take me out of this danger,” she said.
Amira’s teacher, Dejiytinu, is the head of the early marriage club of the school and head for the village women affairs. Through receiving this training from World Vision, she brought 14 early arranged marriages to the court out of which she successfully cancelled eleven of them.
“As soon as I read the letter, I went to the police station and applied for help. The policemen went to the home of the child and told the grandmother to cancel the marriage otherwise they would face legal imprisonment,” Dejiytinu said.
Amira is now happy and attending school, wanting to become a doctor. However she still has a an escape plan should her family want to marry her again.
“I would disappear from his sight to a remote place and continue my education at evening school, working as a daily labourer in day time,” Amira says.